Photo: Shelby Courtney / Flickr
Photo: Shelby Courtney / Flickr

Mothers are the real life super heroes. They’re there for every little problem and help prop us up. It’s no wonder that studies have shown that mothers’ involvements are highly correlated with future success of the kids.

Bit of News asked 9 people from different walks of life some things they have learned from being raised by a strong mother. Here’s what they told us:

You learn to do what needs to be done, even if you don’t want to

“My mom had to be strong. My dad worked two jobs and I am one of 12 children. From her actions every day, I learned this mantra: do what needs done, and if you don’t want to, do it anyway. She passed three years ago, and that mantra is still part of my day.”

Joan Fradella, Certified Family Mediator, Divorce thru Mediation, Inc

You learn to create your own happiness

“While the most obvious aspects of our likeness is noticeable on the surface, much of our similarities can only be seen when you get to know us. Divorce, single motherhood and teenage struggles have shaped our ever-evolving relationship. Along the way she taught me that boys come and go, that I’m stronger than I think, and that I am my only true advocate.”

Jessica Thiefels, founder of Honest Body Fitness, HonestBodyFitness.com

You learn that the world doesn’t revolve around you

“My mother was a full time Nurse, who played an active part in running our family farm and raising three children and being caregiver to elderly family members. She taught me get outside of my ‘me, me, me thinking’ by reaching out to older neighbors & family with empathy, kindness and taking action, and how to handle life’s challenges using creativity and a sense of humor.”

Mary Miller, comedian, Mary Miller Comedy & Music and I Do Done Right Weddings

You learn to reinvent yourself when things aren’t working

“My mom is tough as nails. She and my father were divorced when I was 5 and she had no career outside of the motel my family ran. So, she took it upon herself, with no child support and no welfare, to recreate herself Now that I am older, I have developed that survivor instinct. I was married for 16 years and I had the courage to leave a situation which was not healthy. I reinvented myself in a new state.

“I paid for my own college. I plan for my future and if life wallops me upside the head, I shake off the spin and take action. I don’t stay down for long! This is all due to the way my mom brought me up as a strong woman with no privilege.”

Diane Dye Hansen, Marketing Director, Chargerback

You learn to spend quality time with people you care about

“I was raised by a single mom. She worked 3 jobs at once when I was little and I never even knew. Regardless of how tired she was, she always found time for me. I never saw her stress or sweat. Now that I’m a mom, I understand that she indirectly taught me that quantity of time is important, but what matters most is the quality of time. I remember every dress up/fashion show, putting towels on our heads and using brushes as microphones…making dinner together…thanks mom!”

Keymia S., HUE Model Network

You learn that when there are no role models, you should forge your own path

“My mom taught me that in a world where strong female role models are few and far in between, the only standard you should hold yourself to is the one you create. While it is great to have a mentor or an inspirational figure to aspire to, it can be limiting because it sets parameters for what you can do, and there is a lot women haven’t done.

“Watching my mom work as a lawyer for tech companies that were almost entirely male-dominated, I realized she had to find the motivation within, and imagine herself in these positions without any women to set an example. Rather than wait for the right role model, she became one for her very lucky daughter.”

Virginia Girard, Student, Cornell University

You learn to embrace change

“My mom taught me that we can pursue what we want, and not be afraid for that to change — even dramatically. She had four careers, as I grew up: registered nurse, near full-time non-profit volunteer, department store manager, and revenue accountant. Each change was approached deliberately and required learning, and each was also pursued with passion to do a great job, specifically having an impact.”

Jana Eggers, CEO, Nara Logics

You learn how to be emotionally and financially independent

“The best relationships I’ve ever had have been when I was working and had my own personal and professional goals. Being emotionally or financially needy toward a partner puts a lot of pressure and strain on a relationship. When you remove that pressure from the relationship, it’s a beautiful thing when you can be with someone simply because you love them and enjoy being around them.”

Diane Passage, Empowerment Life Coach, dianepassage.com

You learn not to be jealous of your partner and the value of unconditional love

“My mom was a rock in tough situations. She didn’t cry. Did yell. Just proceeded with calm and determination. Whining to her didn’t work. She disciplined us very young about appropriate behavior. My father was the social one, and in the public eye, receiving a lot of attention and accolades. She taught me to support your partner and not be jealous. She just didn’t do jealousy.”

Bobbe White, Try Laughter! Inc